Your anxiety is the cost you have to bear every time you get out there and take a chance on someone. Not everyone is worth this cost. — I used to have severe anxiety when it came to dating. Meeting new people, waiting for text messages, confirming plans, not knowing where the relationship is going could hurt me physically. Dating wasn’t fun. Dating was a constant battle of fighting all my ugly thoughts about myself, all my doubts…

I no longer identify with the girl I was but I had so much empathy for her. — I’ve been with my husband for three years and married for half a year. Before meeting my husband, I’d never had a serious relationship. None of my past relationships lasted longer than eight months, and the eight-month relationship happened when I was a teenager. It doesn’t matter anymore, but back…

2022 has definitely been the best year of my life. So what’s next? — In 2019, I turned my life around. Since then, I’ve been increasingly stable and happy. 2020 was still a bit rough. I was on a work visa. My job sucked. My anxiety crept up on me now and again. Lockdowns happened. My husband and I were still new so there was that daunting uncertainty of the…

I didn’t level up to be worthy of love. — Once upon a time, I thought if I could become less emotional, have a cooler job, make more money and lose a few pounds, I’d finally be loved. To the younger me, the point of levelling up was about becoming worthy of love. When a guy liked me and stopped…

“You’re always with me.” — My husband is very attentive. He meets my needs across all love languages, and I feel very happy and fulfilled in our relationship every day. In return, I’ve become excellent at making him happy. I know what he wants and needs, and I make sure he feels loved and cared…

11 years of ups and downs and a happy outcome — It’s a strange feeling — I’m now a British citizen. I can vote. Britain is my country now. It took me over 11 years to get here. I had to have top grades and go to a top university so I could get a solid job to secure visa sponsorship while paying lots and lots of fees along the…

If you want a high-value partner, first, act like one. — High-value people find each other. Being attractive and rich doesn’t automatically make you a high-value partner to someone. High quality and value people don’t choose a partner just based on looks and money — there are other factors that are more essential. High value is an indicator of your core…

I enjoyed my alone time but I realised something important. — Last week, my husband was on a management work trip. I know — it’s not a long time, but it was the first time we were away from each other for longer than a day. We met a few years ago and quickly became inseparable. We moved in with each…