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6 Hard Things I Had to Do Before Meeting My Husband
Especially relevant if you have an anxious attachment style
For my birthday this year, my husband asked me what I wanted, but I couldn’t think of a thing.
I’ve already had everything I want and need, and if there’s anything else, I can buy it myself or my husband already gets it for me like an everyday thing.
(He surprised me with a beautiful bouquet of red roses and a lovely handwritten card, then he took us on a weekend trip to the sea where he had pre-booked a romantic dinner.)
The point is, I’m living a great life.
My husband is the best man I know, and I love him so much. He’s kind, affectionate, patient, funny, intelligent, and generous. He’s an excellent communicator and my biggest cheerleader. I’m wrapped in his love and care every single day.
But my life wasn’t always like this.
Before I met my husband a few years ago, my life was a mess.
I was in lots of emotional and spiritual pain almost every day. I couldn’t enjoy anything because of my intense anxiety. I got attached to unavailable guys who treated me badly. I went through heartbreak after heartbreak. I hated my job and my life.
See, I’m not here by chance. I had to work for it. Hard. My husband didn’t save me — My life leveled up because I leveled up. I made the decision to turn my life around, and I achieved it by doing many hard things.
1. Reset my life.
After many short-lived toxic relationships that cost me my well-being, my time, and my dignity, I felt like I had hit rock bottom. My life was going nowhere, and it scared me deeply.
I had so many issues that I didn’t even know where to begin to fix them. All the lines were blurred. Everything going for me was mediocre. I was not where I wanted to be. And I knew another quick fix wouldn’t help.
