A good outcome needs a good approach. — Download my FREE 5-step intentional dating approach that will get you a quality, long-lasting relationship I’ve read countless stories of people who say they want a relationship yet have no idea what they’re actually looking for in a partner, or people who say they need one thing yet stick around…

Your anxiety is the cost you have to bear every time you get out there and take a chance on someone. Not everyone is worth this cost. — I used to have severe anxiety when it came to dating. Meeting new people, waiting for text messages, confirming plans, not knowing where the relationship is going could hurt me physically. Dating wasn’t fun. Dating was a constant battle of fighting all my ugly thoughts about myself, all my doubts…

Self-awareness is a gift. Don’t waste it. — Dating can be confusing. People often torture themselves with seemingly self-conflicting questions, “Why did he stay with me if he didn’t want to commit to me?”, “Why is he jealous if he isn’t into me?”, “Why did he cuddle me after sex if he only wanted friends with benefits?” But…

How I find the reasons to publish again — I live a good life now. To get here, I’ve learned many lessons. Being here has also opened my eyes to many valuable things. All in all, I have a lot to share. I know my sharing would be useful to other people. In fact, it has been useful. But…

Can they cherish you every day? — I used to watch movies and shows to learn about love. Now, as someone who’s about to get married in a month, I realise that I no longer need to learn about love from fiction which is often flawed anyway. I know what love is to me. I’m experiencing it…

Here’s how writing saved me — 2019 was the year I turned my life around. I’ve told this story many times: I stopped dating. I started going to therapy. I changed my daily habits. I became “ruthless” and intentional about moving forward. I often attributed my blissful present to these decisions. …

I asked the universe for him, and he immediately came into my life. — I’m marrying a man who quickly calls me from work when I tell him I have a nightmare or anxiety. And I listed this first not because it’s the most important thing or anything, but because this just happened (again) today and it came to my mind. …

A little life update — If you’re my regular reader, you probably have noticed that I’m not very active on Medium these days. I admit that I might have lost interest in writing about dating and relationships here a little. And there are a few reasons for this. Firstly, I’ve written a lot about this…

But there’s a caveat. — Before moving to the UK, I started a private journal. I was 17 years old, about to uproot my life. Naturally, I had a lot going on in my mind, and I needed the space to be brutally honest with myself. …