Avoid These 10 MISTAKES if You Have an ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT STYLE

Time to stop getting in your way and start healing for real

Ellen Nguyen

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This is for people who have an anxious attachment style and are struggling with it in romantic relationships and don’t know what they’re doing wrong that blocks their healing.

Hi, I’m Ellen. I’m a former anxiously attached dater. My anxious attachment style stemmed from childhood issues and traumatising breakups in my younger years.

I know what it’s like. A delayed text message could make my stomach knot. Seeing any small changes in behaviours from a date could make my chest tightened and trigger my worst fear of being abandoned. Any social interaction had the potential to send me straight to hiding and spiralling in bed. I became needy, impulsive, reactive, which pushed people away from me while the thing I wanted the most was their attention and love. My anxious attachment style robbed me from living a normal life enjoying simple, essential things like social connections or dating. I felt so helpless against it.

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Ellen Nguyen

Freelance writer & digital creator | London based | Psychology BSc. Editor of LovefulMind.com, empowering women.