Do You Value Your Attention and Use it to Your Advantage in Dating? Here’s How.
I desperately sought attention and approval from others, forgetting that my own attention was also valuable.
Have you ever felt that you’re mindlessly giving away your attention, feeling undervalued or not appreciated enough? It’s a widespread issue in dating, where it’s crucial to understand how to value and effectively use your attention.
I’ve experienced this myself. When my self-esteem was low, I desperately sought attention and approval from others, forgetting that my own attention was also valuable. I used to get upset with people who contacted me inconsistently or send them numerous texts when they went silent. By doing this, I unknowingly taught them that they could get my attention simply by ignoring or disrespecting me.
Learning that my attention is valuable was tough, but it’s true — where and how I direct my attention significantly affects my life quality. Whether I realised it or not, the manner and timing of giving my attention sends distinct messages. I found that truly valuing my attention and having confidence in myself was only possible with enough self-esteem.
