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The Truth is Taking Care of A Man Won’t Make Him Want You More
Stop the free labour.
I admit it: I was never taught to cook and clean, and I’m grateful for it.
Okay, hear me out.
Before you shout cooking and cleaning are essential skills, yes, I agree with you. I do know how to cook and clean, and I do cook and clean.
The point is that I’ve learned these skills on my own since I started living alone. I was not taught by my parents to cook and clean; it was never imposed on me that I needed to learn domestic skills because I was a girl.
And it’s an important thing to call out because I grew up in Vietnam — it’s very common in Vietnam for girls/women to be expected to serve their families and their husband’s families.
In contrast, my sisters and I were taught very early on that we must study well. We were always top of the classes. We passed difficult exams to attend top schools. We were never asked to cook and clean (we did it only if we wanted to.) My parents, while not the most emotionally skilled with us, worked hard to pay for our education. In retrospect, it was probably the best they knew how to love us.
They didn’t want us to stay in Vietnam because they were worried about the expectations put on us as women. So, they sent us…
