Having dating standards isn't asking men to jump through anything. Either they meet your dating standards or they don't. If they do, then you date them. And the point of having dating standards is not to increase a man's interest - it's to weed out the wrong ones. So the problem isn't with FDS in this regard - it's with your understanding of it, and perhaps with your standards. Unrealistic standards or standards that are not true to who you are can cause problems.

P.s. I teach how to create dating standards that work in my course https://learn.ellennguyen.com/empowered-dating :)