How I Drastically Transformed My Dating Life and Manifested My Dream Relationship in Less Than a Year

Intense healing, worldview and mindset changes, and successful manifestation

Ellen Nguyen

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Photo by Khoa Do Photography

I have been living in London for the last 11 years, and I can’t quite believe how much my life has changed. During my healing journey, I actually manifested exactly the life and the relationship I have today. I want to share with you about this journey of how I completely transformed my dating life and my life and how I did my manifestation.

In my early 20s, I was insecure, anxious, heartbroken, depressed, and just really, really low. But now I’m happily married. I’m a homeowner. I live a very comfortable life in London. Everything has changed, and I attribute that outcome to the fact that I healed myself, changed my dating approach completely, and then found a healthy, fulfilling, happy relationship. It is an absolute contrast to my dating life in my early 20s.

1. My nightmarish dating life in my early 20s

Let’s take a trip down memory lane.

I was so anxious and insecure. I was such a people pleaser. I was what they now call a ‘pick me’. My relationships were very short-lived, casual, unstable, and even traumatising. I didn’t date to find a relationship; I dated to escape my life, to have empty fun, to heal my past wounds. It was very self-serving. I didn’t really think about the other person; I didn’t really think too far into the future. Even if I saw red flags miles away like they were about to leave the country, I didn’t really care. I went with it to see how it would go. (We all know how that would go.)

I also valued the wrong things; I would care about really superficial things, about how those things that they had made me look. I wanted to be associated with things that I didn’t have. My self-esteem was on the floor. I might have standards at the beginning when I picked someone to date, but when I got…

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Ellen Nguyen

Freelance writer & digital creator | London based | Psychology BSc. Editor of LovefulMind.com, empowering women.