How to Strategise Your 20s to be Filled with Joy, Security, and Abundance

A look back at my defining decade

Ellen Nguyen


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Growing up is a funny thing. One day, you’re a teenager thinking you know everything there is to know, and the next, you’re entering a decade that’s often touted as the “defining years” of your life: your 20s. It’s a decade of growth, transformation, and, more importantly, embracing oneself.

My 20s were made even more special by my moving to London a few years earlier. I was thrown into an entirely new environment and left to my own devices, which accelerated my growth. I had no choice but to mature and forge my own path.

Now at 29, I find myself secure and happy, doing what I love and not having to worry about much, so I want to share a few things I did right in my 20s to help me get here.

Age 20–24: Stepping out and finding my feet

As a fresh-faced 20-year-old, the world felt massive and filled with countless possibilities. Suddenly, there were no marked paths. There were no “right” or “wrong” choices — just choices.

This was a phase of discovering and defining. If my teenage years were about fitting into molds, these initial years of my 20s were about breaking them. Stepping out of the comfortable spaces I knew, I ventured into the vast unknown. I tried new hobbies, met different people, and traveled to unfamiliar places. Each experience, each interaction, was like collecting puzzle pieces of who I was and who I wanted to be.

It wasn’t all rosy, though. There were countless stumbles along the way, from choosing the wrong job and trusting the wrong people, to practically abusing myself. At one point, I hit rock bottom and thought I might not pull through. Yet, every mistake was a lesson. I learned that it was okay not to have everything figured out and that feeling lost was a part of the journey.

Looking back, I’m really glad I tested my limits and allowed myself to fail and get hurt because it was the only way I could become stronger and wiser.

That said, it’s worth noting that even though I tried many new things and made many mistakes during this stage, I made sure none of them impacted my livelihood or left…



Ellen Nguyen

Freelance writer & digital creator | London based | Psychology BSc. Editor of, empowering women.