I do agree that we should recognise and commit to working on our own barriers to love. That said, it's a journey. For some, it might take a lifetime, or they might fall back into their old ways due to difficult life circumstances. Along this journey, there will be people who see them beyond those barriers and walk alongside them. In some cases, those barriers might still be way too high and they should spend more time with themselves first, but there are people who are more ready to be with someone and work towards a healthy relationship. I understand some scenarios sound like a challenge for the more secure people. So it's fair if it's too much for them and they need to move on. We all should do what's best for us.