Many good points that resonate with my own thoughts. I admire you for exercising your principles as most people are often better at talking than doing. On the topic of power balance, I agree to some extent but I personally don’t think it’s absolute (what ever is?). It also depends on the views of both parties involved and I suppose in this case you and your partner at the time shared the same and it worked. One of my great friends told me, “If all you have to work with is a hammer, every problem starts to look like a nail.” We always try to find truths but it can be a dangerous thin line between being objective and assuming our own reality as the human reality. I think this reflects personal values more than reality. I also believe in love, empathy and respect in relationships and when you see life through these lenses things and behaviours can be very different. Anyhow this is a post from 2 years ago, I’m sure your views have changed. Keep it up!