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The Breakup Habit That Changed My Life: No More Emotional Texts
My texts weren’t meant to be an effective means of communication, but rather an emotional outlet, a catharsis.
Breakups are tough, aren’t they? They’re like a storm that leaves us feeling battered and bruised, emotionally drained. We all have our ways of dealing with the emotional turmoil that follows. Some of us might dive into work, others might find comfort in the company of friends, and some might even take the route of self-isolation. My personal journey of self-discovery, however, led me to confront a habit that was more destructive than therapeutic — sending lengthy, emotional text messages to my exes. Over time, I realised that this was a futile exercise, only serving to heighten my distress.
At first, these long messages seemed like a lifeline, a way to let out the whirlwind of thoughts and feelings that were tearing at my heart. They were my canvas, where I painted my emotions in words, hoping to find some semblance of peace. I hoped my exes would engage in a conversation that could provide closure, a conversation that could help me understand where things went wrong, and perhaps, how I could avoid making the same mistakes in the future. But more often than not, I was met with indifference, a dismissive response, or worse…
