As Medium is becoming more relational, I thought I would write a post to introduce myself properly to all my Medium friends — old and new — so you know exactly what to expect when you come to my Medium home and excitedly click that “Follow” button.
I’m a writer and self-help author who is passionate about helping people understand themselves better and create a life they love.
I have a deep interest in the psychology of self, relationships, mental health, and personal development. My articles, outside of Medium, have appeared on HuffPost UK, Thought Catalog, Cosmopolitan UK, Yahoo UK!, Mamamia, and more.
Early Background & Education
I was born in Northern Vietnam and moved to the UK at the age of 17.
During my A-level (pre-university), I explored different subjects including Maths, Economics, and Psychology — all with great potential. In the end, I decided that I’d pursue Psychology as it fascinated me endlessly and came to me most naturally. Luckily, my Asian family trusted me enough that they let me follow this peculiar path to most Vietnamese people at the time.
As of now, I hold a BSc degree in Experimental Psychology. It’s accredited by the British Psychological Society, which means I could obtain higher education and train to be a psychologist later.
During my second year at university, I started to look for internships, aiming to work for a big enough corporation that would sponsor my visa after graduation. This would ensure that my family wouldn’t be worried about me studying Psychology instead of Economics.
With great effort, I secured a full-time job at a big bank in London. My specialty is Digital Marketing, though I have done a variety of professional roles in Product and Finance. I’d say I have both an eye for design and a mind for numbers.
Alongside with the corporate life, I have a writing career, as you might have guessed.
Here’s a brief timeline:
- In 2014, I had my first article published at Thought Catalog where I have produced 1M+ views and been featured in two e-books.
- In 2015, I started to blog at Huffington Post UK and had the opportunity to gain work experiences at their London office.
- In 2017, I founded Tingly Mind, an online publication about relationships and personal growth — an open door to new and minority writers.
- In 2019, I published my first book Love yourself enough to let them go, a collection of essays about heartbreak and self-love.
- In 2020, I’m a Top Medium writer with viral articles and four-figure paychecks. I also co-host a Vietnamese podcast for Vietnamese women.
Outside of Digital banking and writing, I enjoy reading smart-thinking books and making videos. I used to go viral in Vietnam with videos about social issues and, as a result, appear in national newspapers. Last year, I tried Improv as part of my soul-searching journey. I ended up doing a live show on stage with the loveliest group — the experience was a massive joy.
My upbringing was fairly unusual compared to other Vietnamese kids.
My parents were business owners who went through many ups and downs that shaped up my emotionally turbulent childhood. They sent my two sisters to our grandparents when they were as young as two, and my turn came when I was around ten.
My parents weren’t the most attentive in my early years, but one thing they did remarkably well was our education. In Vietnam, we attended the best schools and attended top classes. Later, my eldest sister and I were given the opportunities to pursue higher education in the UK both at the age of 17.
Having the same starting point, though at different times, with my sister, I used to use her as a role model because she’s a brilliant woman in many ways, but as I got to know myself better, I recognised our differences and had no choice but to step into the unknown and write my own story.
Between the age of 17 and 25, I had many relationship experiences that challenged my perception of myself and of the world as I knew it — sometimes excruciatingly so. I’ve also overcome many psychological issues, such as relationship trauma and anxious attachment, after a year in therapy and intensive self-work, which was unbelievably transformative.
These experiences have helped define me as a person and a writer and been channeled into my writing as inspiring stories and no bullshit advice.
Why You Should Follow Me
My style of writing is a blend of deep empathy and rational thinking with a strong conviction. I draw insights from research and my own experiences. I take the best from Eastern and Western cultures.
These days, I write for the good men and women with honourable values and kind hearts — especially young women — as I wish someone had told me back then all the things I know now, someone had shown me that it’s okay to be emotional, empathetic, and soft, and I can be successful and happy while being truly, authentically me.
Check Out My Work
I’ve written hundreds of articles on the internet about relationships, personal growth, and mental health that you might find useful. They can be found in my Medium profile and Tingly Mind website.
I also cover a few smaller niches. Here are some highlights.
- 10 Types of Guys You Should Immediately Block If You Have An Anxious Attachment Style
- 10 Ways I Successfully Became Securely Attached and So Can You
- 13 Top Tips To Manage Your Anxious Attachment Style In A New Relationship
- I Spent One Year in Therapy and It Changed My Life
- How To Be Good At Dating When You Have An Anxious Attachment Style
- Should You Have Casual Sex? It Depends On Your Attachment Style, Research Shows
Feminism / Women
- 9 Reasons Why Young Women Should Avoid Significantly Older Men At All Costs
- 10 Things Women Should Do Shamelessly
- A Girl Looks For Romance, A Woman Looks to Build Her Life
- Dear Girls, Male Attention isn’t A Prize