1 min readOct 7, 2020
Well written essay and agreed on self-validation but... to me, putting yourself and others including your partner in "leagues" is a form of objectification and disrespect. You have been together for many years, there are other qualities that are more important than looks or family wealth - looks and family wealth do not necessarily make a good partner. Yet you use these superficial qualities as a lens through which you see the relationship, even now. I guess a few years back I'd relate more to this piece, but now I don't get it anymore. I wrote a piece about how to assess romantic partners based on the value they've added to your life - I think it's a better lens to look at relationships
