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Pretending to be a chill girl never works (especially if you have anxiety)
My story
In my early twenties, I started to have serious dating anxiety. At the same time, I felt a lot of pressure to be a “chill” girl, which honestly is full of shit and just made my anxiety worse.
I was constantly in conflict. I couldn’t help being anxious but, because of the “chill” girl pressure, I felt ashamed for being anxious. It didn’t help that the guys I dated couldn’t understand my anxiety. In the end, I only had myself to blame. I hated being me. I just wanted to be like those guys who never knew what anxiety was.
Luckily, I finally knew better.
I understood that anxiety is common and it only made me human. I made the mistake of looking at the world through the eyes of guys who lacked experiences with mental health and had limited emotional capacity while shaming myself.
They should be the ones to feel bad about their lack of empathy and work on their understanding of anxiety. There’s nothing cool about being chill if it just means you have no emotional depth.
I actually made a video about it here if you want to know more! I’ve been experimenting with the video format, so I would really appreciate your support and feedback!
