You don't have to explain yourself and your standards. It's OK to want a partner who has financial security! Rich people marry each other for more money all the time. It's a scam when they tell poor/middle class people that you shouldn't want money, that's to keep them poor. Women have been shamed since forever for wanting financial security, being labelled golddiggers (this is not my personal opinion btw, this is studied in sociology.) Wanting financial security has nothing to do with gender. Men do that too. Men don't often have to marry to achieve it because hello capitalist patriarchy.